Showing posts with label life lessons. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life lessons. Show all posts

Monday, June 9, 2014

Life Lessons

21 Life Changing Lessons from Maya Angelou

 By: Gina Sainvil, Executive Director, MAGS Consulting Ltd. Tanzania

“I did what I knew… when I knew better, I did better” ~ Maya Angelou
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 
“The desire to reach for the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” 
3. If you don’t change, you don’t grow. If you don’t grow, you aren’t really living.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~ Maya Angelou
4. You are more than what happens to you.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud. Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.”
“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?” 
6. Life isn’t about surviving but about thriving.
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” 
“To those who have given up on love: I say, “Trust life a little bit.”
8. Ask and you shall receive.
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” 
“Love life. Engage in it. Give it all you’ve got. Love it with a passion because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it.”
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”
10. Challenges are opportunities for growth.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”
“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise!”
11. There’s a difference between merely aging and growing up.
“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”
12. True power comes from within.
“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.”
13. Your parents will always be your parents.
“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.”
14. Nothing last forever. Appreciate everything while you still have it.
“There were people who went to sleep last night, poor and rich and white and black, but they will never wake again. And those dead folks would give anything at all for just five minutes of this weather or ten minutes of plowing. So you watch yourself about complaining. What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
“If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.”
16. Making a living is not the same as making a life.
“I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life’.”
“Nothing will work unless you do.”
18. Great things take time.
“All great achievements require time.”
19. Diversity is a beautiful thing.
“It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.”
“We spend precious hours fearing the inevitable. It would be wise to use that time adoring our families, cherishing our friends and living our lives.”
“Each of us, famous or infamous, is a role model for somebody, and if we aren’t, we should behave as though we are — cheerful, kind, loving, courteous. Because you can be sure someone is watching and taking deliberate and diligent notes.”



Sunday, October 9, 2011

My Life Lessons from Steve Jobs Death


What is the Definition of a Life Successfully Lived?
By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The ACADEMi of Life, NYC


I was genuinely sad when I heard of Steve Jobs’s passing and immediately got on my social media platforms and defined him as a genius, an inspiration and declared his life a shining example of a life successfully lived.

As the founder of a social enterprise, The ACADEMi of Life, a place of ‘higher learning’, I quickly began to second guess my initial response and found myself asking a deeper question: who was Steve Jobs and what did he stand for? I was very clear that he was an iconoclast, a design and marketing genius who created products people loved. He understood us and knew what we wanted and needed. I fell in love with his entire product line because he created them with love. I believe the reason so many people love his products, is that we could feel the love in them. And, who doesn’t want to be surrounded by love.

What was not so clear however was the nagging question of why he was stricken with cancer? Cancer I know is a disease that even in oversimplification represents dis-ease…a word that indicates someone who is ‘out of ease.’ I consulted my library and pulled a book I frequently reference when I am suffering from any type of ailment, the New York Times bestseller, You Can Heal Your Life. This book, by author Louise Hay, has a listing of every possible disease and the related probable causes.

I looked up cancer and its probable cause was: ‘Deep hurt, longstanding resentment and a deep secret or grief eating away at the self…carrying hatreds.’ I recently read a Steve Jobs article which included this statement: Jobs ‘has refused to speak to his biological father, despite the father's efforts to contact Jobs. He was quoted as saying, "This might sound strange, though, but I am not prepared, even if either of us was on our deathbeds, to pick up the phone to call him." One is left to wonder whether he was really ever able to get over his adoption…ever able to forgive and release his past. Could the pouring of all his love into his products without replenishing and understanding his emotional needs, finally cost him his life?

So what has his death taught me?
• Being talented, smart and financially successful is only part of the success equation.
• Denying the surges of fear, hurt or revulsion that we may feel daily, only serve to ignore a most complimentary and essential realm of self…our inner reconciliation…the other part of the success equation.

As David Brooks reminds us in his recent book, The Social Animal, ‘most success stories are told at the surface level of life.’ But if we look one level down, to the ‘unconscious realm of emotions’ we are reminded that we are far less rational and far more emotional that our success stories reveal. As such, in order to experience a full and happy life it stands to reason that “a life successfully lived” is one that strikes the correct balance between matters of the heart and head.

I suppose I am not sure of all the correlations between ease and dis-ease but as a person who strives to understand the inner self, I truly believe that it is just as important for us to strengthen our inner minds as it is for us to build great products and billion dollar organizations with our outer minds.

Maybe someday soon we will be able to articulate to ourselves and to our children the true definition of a life successfully lived! RIP, Steve Jobs.

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Sunday, September 19, 2010

IDEAS TO LIVE BY FROM THE MUSIC OF Bob Marley



A spiritual genius!

By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The ACADEMi of Life, NYC


Spirituality has nothing to do with what you believe but everything to do with your state of consciousness. Your inner spirit.

Bob Marley was a seeker who was never afraid to look within. I consider him to be a musical prophet, a spiritual genius and a timeless mystic. He left a body of work that is instructive and can help us live a more meaningful and fulfilling life. Below are quotes from his music. I have taken the liberty of categorizing the messages.

Self- Awareness
Life is one big road with lots of signs.
Open your eyes and look within are you satisfied with the life you're living.
Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind.

Positivity
If you get down and quarrel every day, you're saying prayers to the devil, I say. Why not help one another on the way… makes it much easier.
Don't worry about a thing: because every little thing is gonna be alright.
I say, you just can’t live that negative way…make way for the positive day.

Love
Can a woman's tender care seize towards the child she bears.
Love the life you live. Live the life you love.

World Peace-Oneness
Until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandon…there will be WAR.
One love one heart.

Trust
Man to Man is so unjust…you don’t know who to trust! Your worst enemy can be your best friend and your best friend your worst enemy.
Only your friends know your secret so only they can reveal it.

Universal Truths
In the abundance of water, the fool is thirsty.
The harder the battle, the sweeter the victory.
He who fight and run away, live to fight another day.
You ain’t gonna miss your water until your well runs dry.
You can fool some people sometimes, but you can't fool all the people all the time.

“As a culture we're starving for some real connection; something we can grab onto and make sense of us. Few people are up to the challenge of doing the work; the real spiritual work that requires us to look inside; to look at the real motivations behind the actions we take. You want to know yourself. Look at what's motivating you.” - Geneen Roth