Showing posts with label Aging. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Aging. Show all posts

Monday, June 9, 2014

Life Lessons

21 Life Changing Lessons from Maya Angelou

 By: Gina Sainvil, Executive Director, MAGS Consulting Ltd. Tanzania

“I did what I knew… when I knew better, I did better” ~ Maya Angelou
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 
“The desire to reach for the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” 
3. If you don’t change, you don’t grow. If you don’t grow, you aren’t really living.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” ~ Maya Angelou
4. You are more than what happens to you.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud. Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.”
“I do not trust people who don’t love themselves and yet tell me, ‘I love you.’ There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.”
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?” 
6. Life isn’t about surviving but about thriving.
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” 
“To those who have given up on love: I say, “Trust life a little bit.”
8. Ask and you shall receive.
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” 
“Love life. Engage in it. Give it all you’ve got. Love it with a passion because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it.”
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”
10. Challenges are opportunities for growth.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”
“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I’ll rise!”
11. There’s a difference between merely aging and growing up.
“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”
12. True power comes from within.
“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.”
13. Your parents will always be your parents.
“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.”
14. Nothing last forever. Appreciate everything while you still have it.
“There were people who went to sleep last night, poor and rich and white and black, but they will never wake again. And those dead folks would give anything at all for just five minutes of this weather or ten minutes of plowing. So you watch yourself about complaining. What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
“If you are always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.”
16. Making a living is not the same as making a life.
“I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life’.”
“Nothing will work unless you do.”
18. Great things take time.
“All great achievements require time.”
19. Diversity is a beautiful thing.
“It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.”
“We spend precious hours fearing the inevitable. It would be wise to use that time adoring our families, cherishing our friends and living our lives.”
“Each of us, famous or infamous, is a role model for somebody, and if we aren’t, we should behave as though we are — cheerful, kind, loving, courteous. Because you can be sure someone is watching and taking deliberate and diligent notes.”



Monday, August 9, 2010

ON AGING



I am getting older…yet I feel young on the inside!

By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The ACADEMi of Life, NYC


Most of us are so afraid of getting old and as a result don’t embrace the aging process. What is this thing called growing old and why am I so afraid of it? Why do I spend hours plucking any visible signs of grey hairs from my scalp? (If I keep this up I am going to be bald very soon) As I lament getting older, the crazy thing is I feel young on the inside. Is there a difference between inner age and outer age?

From the outside I see and feel that the years are rapidly passing by, yet on the inside I feel calm, young and vital. When I look at photographs of myself I notice that my looks change from decade to decade, however the daily looks at me in the mirror don't reveal the dramatic changes of the aging process. I am grateful for the gradual, imperceptible daily rate of the aging, giving me time to grow accustomed to my face.

I recently read an article on celebrating older women by British actress, Harriet Walter and she concludes that ‘there’s something within us that lasts beyond youth and that we shouldn’t feel insecure and scared about getting older.’ Eckhart Tolle, author and spiritual teacher believes that ‘the inner aliveness never gets old…there is the eternal, timeless, formless dimension that you feel on the inside… pay attention to the inner age and less on your external age,’ he counsels.

I realize that a big part of the insecurity and fear of aging is the fear of dying. I am reminded that it's the destiny of all forms; a flower, an apple, a pet or a human being, to age and die. I believe we should be taught at an early age that aging is inevitable and acceptance of our wrinkles, grey hair and gradual decline is our destiny. With acceptance comes peace and if we can accept this fact, then we can truly make peace with aging.

Tolle also believes that when the physical form starts to age, the state of ‘Being’ is more valuable to us than the state of ‘Doing’ and we should attempt to get in touch with that inner age, that inner aliveness that never ages…our spirits. In older civilizations old people embody the realm of spirit and are deeply respected and revered and I think we need to learn how to honor this sacredness in aging which could bring us to a deeper dimension in our lives.

I think this is good advice and I am going to heed it!