LIFE LESSONS FROM THE LANCE ARMSTRONG SAGA

By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The Academi of Life, NYC

Being Human is Not Enough

As I watched the recent Lance Armstrong interview with Oprah Winfrey, I suddenly realized that I was looking at a person void of emotions, empathy and compassion. A person who had strayed so far from his true nature, his being, his spiritual and emotional self, he was unrecognizable. The man had become a machine.

How does a Human Being get to that place? I think most of us don’t realize that we are called Human Being for a reason. Human + Being = A Whole Person. So many of us live our lives and our values as a Human only.

Being Human means to achieve and acquire. While there is nothing wrong with achieving and acquiring, our focus on developing only the human aspects of our nature results in us becoming machine-like, devoid of any emotions.

Our Being nature cannot be ignored. It is our spiritual, emotional, compassionate and empathetic side, which has to be developed and incorporated in our lives. Without which we truly cannot successfully execute this life. Self-Mastery is finding the balance between Human and Being … and Self-Mastery = Happiness.

Being Human is never enough. It’s not enough to make us truly content and happy in our lives. A happy life belongs to the person who achieves the correct balance between Human + Being…a true Human Being. Clearly Lance Armstrong has a lot of work to do.

HAPPINESS

Why happiness matters!
By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The ACADEMi of Life, NYC


‘The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.’ Everyone wants to be happy, yet many are not.

I recently read about an organization called Action for Happiness whose mission is to bring happiness to the world. It’s really a ‘movement for positive social change bringing together people from all walks of life who want to play a part in creating a happier society for everyone.’

I was completely taken with its mission as it’s so closely aligned with the purpose of The ACADEMi of Life; so I joined the movement. Once you join the movement, the ten keys to happiness (GREAT DREAM) below are shared. You will also get a set of personal aspirations for life.

TEN KEYS TO A HAPPIER LIFE

Giving - Do things for others
Relating - Connect with people
Exercising - Take care of your body
Appreciating - Notice the world around
Trying out - Keep learning new things

D irection - Have goals to look forward to
Resilience - Find ways to bounce back
E motion - Take a positive approach
A cceptance - Be comfortable with who you are
M eaning - Be part of something bigger

On their site (www.actionforhappiness.org) I found an iPhone app called mappiness, used to track your happiness. It is a part of a research project at the London School of Economics. I downloaded the app and use it to track and submit my happiness data on a daily basis.

I am thrilled and excited that this organization exists to serve as the focal point for a fundamental shift in cultural values. We need social enterprises like Action for Happiness and The ACADEMi of Life to bring together groups of like-minded people who will commit themselves to try to produce more happiness in the world and less misery. I remain confident that we can create a society in which people feel better inside themselves – where they are happier.

Dalai Lama: "Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions."

THE ART OF CONVERSATION

WE NEED TO TALK
By Shirley Moulton - Founder, The ACADEMi of Life, NYC



I recently read Catherine Blyth’s The ART of Conversation a manual on how to be a great conversationalist. I was particularly interested in this topic since our new venture The ACADEMI of Life (www.theacademioflife.com), a place where we discuss ideas to perfect our lives, offers a weekly conversation dinner event.

These dinners confirmed that attendees had no difficulty being conversationalists. In fact I learned that there was this great need to talk. And this talk needed to be face to face. I also learned how essential these conversations were to our well-being and how valuable the simple pleasure of talking to one another is. People were open, eager to spend time with each other connecting and sharing their life stories…one more intriguing than the other. The conversations were transformative and provided great insights on how we can lead happier and more fulfilling lives.

The book contains these wonderful gems:
• Good conversations can come close to heaven
• Conversation is where the raw stuff of life is spun into art
• Conversations awaken us to each other
• Conversation is good for the brain – better than a hundred pills
• Conversations can heal us
• Conversations give us humanity
• Talk less we understand each other less

I am reminded of the old French salons where conversations were most revered, where the great thinkers, writers, artists, politicians got together to share ideas to innovate, to reason and to produce best-selling books and form lifelong friendships.

I am excited about the possibilities of these dinner conversations…and remain confident that we can change the world one conversation at a time!